1 00:00:00,000 --> 00:00:00,000 2 00:00:10,340 --> 00:00:12,396 You know , I was trying to kind of , 3 00:00:12,396 --> 00:00:14,507 like , started conversation , but she 4 00:00:14,507 --> 00:00:16,618 kept calling me sir . Kept calling me 5 00:00:16,618 --> 00:00:18,618 Lieutenant . It just kind of happen 6 00:00:18,618 --> 00:00:20,840 naturally . So I mean , we connected on 7 00:00:20,840 --> 00:00:23,062 so many levels , so I think it was just 8 00:00:23,062 --> 00:00:25,229 like a mutual understanding it . She's 9 00:00:25,229 --> 00:00:27,451 very creative with arts and designs . I 10 00:00:27,451 --> 00:00:29,618 would say there's something that a lot 11 00:00:29,618 --> 00:00:31,618 of people , she's not gonna present 12 00:00:31,618 --> 00:00:33,840 them , but she did . He likes peace and 13 00:00:33,840 --> 00:00:36,130 quiet . He isn't like large crowds . 14 00:00:36,140 --> 00:00:39,080 He's not shy , but he does like thio 15 00:00:39,090 --> 00:00:40,250 kind of be low key 16 00:00:43,140 --> 00:00:46,930 before she came along . My 17 00:00:46,930 --> 00:00:50,610 mentality then was so focused on work A 18 00:00:50,610 --> 00:00:53,950 t S T s house . I was the m r o being 19 00:00:53,950 --> 00:00:56,172 at the time . You better correct this , 20 00:00:56,172 --> 00:00:58,339 officer . So when I came to the unit , 21 00:00:58,339 --> 00:01:00,506 it was all business . I had moved from 22 00:01:00,506 --> 00:01:03,180 Columbus at that time on just starting 23 00:01:03,840 --> 00:01:06,200 brand new journey with the Air Force . 24 00:01:06,500 --> 00:01:10,130 Port e felt bad , 25 00:01:10,130 --> 00:01:13,650 for she was like a deer in headlights . 26 00:01:14,040 --> 00:01:17,530 Goodness , I saw her struggle on , 27 00:01:17,610 --> 00:01:19,880 uh , you know , and I stepped in and 28 00:01:19,890 --> 00:01:22,440 kind of offered a helping hand . E 29 00:01:22,450 --> 00:01:25,280 meant so much . I was so overwhelmed 30 00:01:25,290 --> 00:01:27,620 and confused , but It was so helpful . 31 00:01:27,620 --> 00:01:29,676 And he was so supportive through the 32 00:01:29,676 --> 00:01:32,210 whole process , like it was great . But , 33 00:01:32,210 --> 00:01:34,410 I mean , at some point , our 34 00:01:34,410 --> 00:01:37,510 conversation kind of drifted from work 35 00:01:37,520 --> 00:01:40,450 to , you know , personal life . So 36 00:01:40,840 --> 00:01:43,400 that's when I kind of felt like it's 37 00:01:43,400 --> 00:01:47,350 going somewhere different now . Yeah . 38 00:01:52,240 --> 00:01:54,296 E think that was , like , one of the 39 00:01:54,296 --> 00:01:56,462 key things that we connected on in the 40 00:01:56,462 --> 00:01:58,960 beginning . Outside of military work . 41 00:01:59,340 --> 00:02:02,480 Yeah . I mean , e a lot , you know ? Of 42 00:02:02,480 --> 00:02:04,702 course , I was been preaching for , you 43 00:02:04,702 --> 00:02:06,840 know , for a while , and it was 44 00:02:06,840 --> 00:02:09,118 challenging like that . Really Kind of , 45 00:02:09,118 --> 00:02:11,340 like , open yourself up to , you know , 46 00:02:11,340 --> 00:02:13,396 too much in the whole dating scene . 47 00:02:13,396 --> 00:02:15,451 That was something that she actually 48 00:02:15,451 --> 00:02:17,618 value . Like she wanted to know mawr . 49 00:02:17,618 --> 00:02:19,673 She wanted to hear sermons , and she 50 00:02:19,673 --> 00:02:21,951 really wanted to connect on that level . 51 00:02:21,951 --> 00:02:24,062 And that was like repression . It was 52 00:02:24,062 --> 00:02:26,062 because I hadn't really seen that . 53 00:02:26,062 --> 00:02:29,080 That was That was a huge , huge push 54 00:02:29,080 --> 00:02:31,900 for me . That was one moment I would 55 00:02:31,900 --> 00:02:35,520 say that she was kind of , like , 56 00:02:35,530 --> 00:02:37,752 really embarrassed during my ordination 57 00:02:37,752 --> 00:02:40,150 process when I got her a dame , Um , 58 00:02:40,160 --> 00:02:42,160 you know , she thought that she was 59 00:02:42,160 --> 00:02:44,271 just going to kind of be there taking 60 00:02:44,271 --> 00:02:46,604 pictures and kind of being on this side . 61 00:02:46,604 --> 00:02:46,590 But they ended up . They end up calling 62 00:02:46,590 --> 00:02:48,701 both of us into into the front of the 63 00:02:48,701 --> 00:02:50,701 church , and all of the husband and 64 00:02:50,701 --> 00:02:52,701 wives that were there in the church 65 00:02:52,701 --> 00:02:54,646 came up . They put hands on us and 66 00:02:54,646 --> 00:02:54,360 everybody just started praying for us . 67 00:02:54,840 --> 00:02:58,040 I felt a giant squeeze my hand so tight 68 00:02:58,050 --> 00:03:01,710 while she was while they was 69 00:03:01,720 --> 00:03:03,831 praying and while it was going on and 70 00:03:03,831 --> 00:03:05,220 she was just squeezing . 71 00:03:08,840 --> 00:03:11,290 Yeah , that was She knows that that was 72 00:03:11,290 --> 00:03:14,290 like Ki ki ki Because 73 00:03:14,300 --> 00:03:18,280 I had always told even sharing my son . 74 00:03:18,280 --> 00:03:20,280 And as he grew as he was growing up 75 00:03:20,280 --> 00:03:22,447 that , you know , the first woman that 76 00:03:22,447 --> 00:03:24,502 I introduced him to was gonna be the 77 00:03:24,502 --> 00:03:26,920 woman that I proposed to . And he 78 00:03:26,930 --> 00:03:29,800 picked up on Joan's spirit immediately 79 00:03:29,810 --> 00:03:32,510 and and since then he's been making 80 00:03:32,510 --> 00:03:36,370 little gifts for little bracelet . Like 81 00:03:36,380 --> 00:03:38,930 when my fiance , you know , and I was 82 00:03:38,940 --> 00:03:41,200 like , uh , okay , but it was so 83 00:03:41,200 --> 00:03:43,490 important , I was a little skeptical . 84 00:03:43,500 --> 00:03:45,389 There's something I've never done 85 00:03:45,389 --> 00:03:47,960 before , actually , instead of avoid , 86 00:03:48,440 --> 00:03:51,990 But I feel like at some point during my 87 00:03:51,990 --> 00:03:54,880 whole dating history , I just kind of 88 00:03:54,880 --> 00:03:57,560 surrendered . I was finding love and 89 00:03:57,560 --> 00:04:00,100 just gave it to God . I'm like , Lord , 90 00:04:00,110 --> 00:04:02,277 you know , whoever . I mean , he has a 91 00:04:02,277 --> 00:04:04,332 child . You know , whatever the case 92 00:04:04,332 --> 00:04:06,277 may be , it's your will . Then I'm 93 00:04:06,277 --> 00:04:08,499 gonna go with that on , uh , definitely 94 00:04:08,499 --> 00:04:11,810 felt it with him . So and I've been 95 00:04:11,810 --> 00:04:13,810 blessed ever since . You know , the 96 00:04:13,810 --> 00:04:15,866 relationship between Carson That was 97 00:04:15,866 --> 00:04:18,470 great . It's been a blessing . When I 98 00:04:18,480 --> 00:04:22,360 first met Carson , his son way met up 99 00:04:22,360 --> 00:04:26,270 at the movies and when I walked 100 00:04:26,270 --> 00:04:29,230 up , his son kind of looks at him and 101 00:04:29,230 --> 00:04:31,870 says , How does my hair look ? A Ziff . 102 00:04:31,870 --> 00:04:35,610 I was here , Thio . It 103 00:04:35,610 --> 00:04:38,070 was hilarious . But we still joke about 104 00:04:38,070 --> 00:04:40,760 that 105 00:04:44,440 --> 00:04:46,107 for me . You know , one of my 106 00:04:46,107 --> 00:04:48,510 weaknesses was like confidence . I 107 00:04:48,510 --> 00:04:50,454 would say , like with the military 108 00:04:50,454 --> 00:04:52,454 world , that was I don't like being 109 00:04:52,454 --> 00:04:54,399 caught off guard . I like to be on 110 00:04:54,399 --> 00:04:56,510 point , you know , just knowledgeable 111 00:04:56,510 --> 00:04:58,800 And , you know , but just being 112 00:04:58,800 --> 00:05:01,730 comfortable with not knowing and just 113 00:05:01,730 --> 00:05:03,952 still having confidence to move forward 114 00:05:03,952 --> 00:05:05,952 and say , Well , you know , I don't 115 00:05:05,952 --> 00:05:08,190 know , But I will , you know . Yeah . 116 00:05:08,200 --> 00:05:11,050 And I would say , you know , Joanna is 117 00:05:11,050 --> 00:05:13,060 definitely helped . Me too . Just 118 00:05:13,060 --> 00:05:15,570 appreciate you know the person that I 119 00:05:15,570 --> 00:05:17,681 am in other people's lives . I have , 120 00:05:17,681 --> 00:05:21,330 ah , a strong tendency to to downplay , 121 00:05:21,340 --> 00:05:23,830 you know , successes . And she's always 122 00:05:23,830 --> 00:05:25,890 kind of there , you know , elevating 123 00:05:25,890 --> 00:05:28,057 that moment for me on . I think that's 124 00:05:28,057 --> 00:05:30,057 one thing that has made me a better 125 00:05:30,057 --> 00:05:32,800 human . It's just , you know , kinda 126 00:05:32,810 --> 00:05:35,100 learning just to kind of appreciate , 127 00:05:35,110 --> 00:05:37,332 you know , things that I've done so far 128 00:05:37,332 --> 00:05:39,650 and that I continue thio .